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OK, get the running stuff out of the way today, because something has bothered me so very much today. I ran yesterday, I ran today. My foot is holding together. I barely even bled today, so toes are healing and running is not putting undue stress on the injury. I’m taking it easy, and slow. May is going to be a crazy month for me, it is exam time in my profession, so we have lots to do.
\nBut let’s get into the shit today. Because I saw something, and I don’t give service to every shitty meme and reddit I see. If I did, I’d never be happy, and I’d never have time for anything else. But this was so abhorrent, I had to take some time with it. It absolutely dominated my thoughts while running today. I warn everyone, what I am about to post is sick. From here on out, I am not going to be very kind at all, and the actual thread, the things this guy says, it’s horrible, it’s misogyny, bad parenting, incestuous, and everything terrible pretty much rolled up into one. I want to discuss this, because the person worded it in such a way, which gives me a wonderful chance to show anyone, once and for all, this line of thinking, these ideas, ARE COMPLETELY BULLSHIT AND YOU ARE LESS OF A HUMAN BEING FOR HOLDING THEM. Yes, all caps, I want to be clear there, I want to leave no doubt. So, let’s begin; first, the offending screenshot:
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\nOK Fucknut, you asked for those who read to “think about this logically.” So let’s do exactly fucking that. Not because you DESERVE people honoring your requests, but because it doesn’t even come close to holding up logically. We’re going to state his argument clearly first, because I want to tear this thing down brick by perfidious brick. I understand argument does not work with these people, they have their minds made up, but fuck this guy.<\/p>\n

Fucknut’s argument:
\ndefinition of “cuckhold”- A man who raises other men’s children unknowingly. Derived from the cuckoo, a bird who lays eggs in other birds’ nests, and those birds raise the cuckoo chicks at the expense of their own, often. For purposes here, I believe we can all agree then, that the idea is some creature who does the work of child rearing, yet receives no benefit thereof.
\nPremises
\n1. Parenting is a job which one should reap some sort of reward or benefit from.
\n2. That benefit gained is inherently tied to the utility of your child.
\n3. The job of parenting involves taking care of a child’s physical, emotional, and mental well-being during their early life, and ends (implied) at a specified time, usually around 18-20 years after the birth of said child.
\n4. A parent should not have sexual relationships with their children.
\n5. The only value of a female is as a sexual object.
\nConclusion: As women are only useful for sexual gratification of men, the parent has exerted energy for their term, and since they cannot benefit from using the female in the only way a female can be used, they gain no benefit and therefore as a “cuckhold”.<\/p>\n

Now, I’ve never been a parent, but I’m a damned good uncle. So let’s sit down, and as sickening as it is, tear it apart, logically.
\nThe definition is what it is, but the idea is manifestly idiotic. The idea of the “traditional family”, a mother, father, raising children together is fairly new. It has only ever, truly applied to middle-class Europeans. The upper-class has always had someone else rear their children and the lower classes depend on each other. Anyone else not touched by theological dogma has always looked to those in the community to help. Whether for economic, historic, sociological reasons. The simple fact is, humans are social creatures and have always raised children, more or less, in a communal fashion. Yes, the biological parents have always had a more prominent role, and are required to do most of the work, but overall, the community has always had a role to play. So, on its face, the idea of a “cuckhold” is ridiculous. Ensuring the next generation learns and grows is a natural act, and as no man or woman are an island unto themselves, we all share in the responsibility. And we become better when we share our expertise regardless of blood ties.
\nOnto premise one. Parenting as an economic transaction. Once again, I’m not a parent, but please allow me the opportunity to try this one. Based on my observations the purpose of parenting is to continue, and improve the species. Whether we’re talking bacterium in a petri dish or human beings, biology comes down to reproduction and evolution, creating the most survivable offspring you can. Let’s momentarily ignore the add-on human complexities, money, property, etc. Let us even cast aside biological difference, height, metabolism, or any physical nonsense like that. What does survivability mean for a human being? Our technology has so far surpassed nature, we all have a pretty good shot at long term survival, as long as we have access to it. We don’t all have to be good hunters, or fishermen, or farmers anymore. The only thing the majority of people need to do is be decent enough to recognize everyone should have access to penicillin so they don’t die of easily treatable illness, for example.
\nIndividually as a parent you’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll be proud, you’ll be angry, you’ll have fear, you’ll trust, whatever emotions you end up feeling, let’s face it, parenting, like everything else, is a roller coaster. So, is there a reward? I’m told there is, but it seems to be something esoteric. Clearly, there is no prize to parenting, where you are rewarded with money, lands, resources, or wealth in any respect.
\nIn regard to premise two, and the above stated argument that parenting doesn’t present some concrete reward; again it’s not a job where when your child grows up they owe you something. Now if you, and society, has done a good job, your child will recognize the value in helping others and will reward you with their continued presence and in what capacity they can. This is not tied to their usefulness as a person though. A good person \u00a0will do what they can when they can, and that’s it. But their value isn’t based on any metric of their utility for you or anyone else. I will not begin a discussion on individual value, but it is worth noting that all people have a value and deserve dignity.
\nNumber three, parenting is a lifelong process. From the moment your first child is born, until (hopefully) you die, even after that. Your impact on your child(ren) stays until they die. While you may never be credited for it, what you pass on as a parent, may stay for generations to come. So there is no specified time of parenting.
\nPremise four is the only one which stands against scrutiny. Frankly, it’s a given. Biology tells us it’s a very bad idea. I don’t think I need to explain this any further. If you disagree, I absolutely have moral judgements to make about you, and none of them are good.
\nAnd the final twig trying so mightily to hold up the lead weight that is this whole sickening display, women are not, were not, and never will be solely for sexual fulfillment, child-bearing, or any of this other nonsense. Women have all the same skills, capabilities, and capacities of any man. The superficial biological differences are purely for reproduction e purpose, and thanks to technology, can be eliminated. I can sit here all day citing examples of equality, and sometimes even female supremacy.
\nAnd so, having looked at this logically, the person who wrote this is just garbage. The argument is garbage, and he’s an idiot for thinking it. It’s ok to entertain dumb ideas. It’s not ok to try and spread them. I hope this person is not a parent, and learns better before becoming one. Life is not a business transaction. People are not commodities. Women are not playthings. People have value whether they are useful to you or not.
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